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Bondage 101: A Monday Edition!

So You Wanna Get a Little Kinky?
Let's face it, spicing things up can be a whole lot of fun! That's why I’ve dubbed February as Bondage Month here!


Now, before you dive headfirst into this world of ropes and restraints, it's important to remember that bondage and S&M come with a learning curve. You're not going to become a pro at wielding a flogger on the first go, but you probably won't be terrible at it either. And let's be real, it's all too easy to get caught up in the technicalities of tying up your partner and forget to actually pay attention to, well, your partner.


This post is lighthearted and basic, as far as these things go. And just like with all things my advice comes from personal experience which can be highly subjective. So, i’m not claiming to be the end-all-be-all sexpert, and i’m totally open to your feedback, suggestions, experiences, and questions in the comments!


Open Negotiations
Before you embark on your bondage journey, take some time to figure out what you like, what you want to try, what you'd consider trying, and what you absolutely do not want to do—ever. Maybe grab a yes/no/maybe list to help you sort things out. Now, what's on your list, you ask? Well, it could be anything from...

  • Bondage (light/heavy)

  • Bruises

  • Chastity Cage

  • Corsets

  • Cuffs

  • Electric Wand Play

  • Exhibitionism

  • Food play

  • Gender play

  • Hair pulling

  • Humiliation

  • Ice cubes

  • Leather restraints

  • Nipple play

  • Needle Play

  • Orgasm denial

  • Power play (all sorts of things)

  • Spanking (giving)

  • Spanking (receiving)

  • Teasing

  • Voyeur

  • Wax Play

  • Whips

  • So much more

Conversation Starter:
So, you and your partner have been cooking up some ways to spice things up in the bedroom, huh? Well, before you heat things up, remember that safety, sanity, and consent are the main ingredients in this recipe. Just like making a gourmet meal together, adding a bit of kink requires a dash of conversations and a sprinkle of negotiations.


Open Dialogue:
First, take a seat at the table (or the bed, if you prefer), and have an honest chat about your desires and boundaries. Think of it like planning a new recipe—grab your aprons and get ready to brainstorm. Discuss what activities you're both comfortable with, set up safe words, and ensure that everything is consensual. After all, communication is the secret sauce to a satisfying and fulfilling experience.


Remember, this isn't just one person's menu. Both of you have a say in what's on the table, so make sure each of your appetites is taken into consideration. No one wants a dish that's too spicy or bland, right?


So, bon appétit! Get ready to savor the results of your open and honest communication, and enjoy the delightful flavors of your fun and consensual exploration. Just like a good meal, it's always better when it's made and savored together. Cheers to good communication and even better intimacy!

RESEARCH

When it comes to discovering your preferences, a little research can go a long way. Consider diving into some intriguing bondage erotica books. These reads can help you unravel what really gets your gears turning.

Education is key, so why not cozy up with some informative books on bondage and BDSM? Plus, the internet is packed with resources waiting to be explored. Here's a teeny-tiny sample to get you started:

  • Kink Academy is your one-stop shop for online posts and videos offering the nitty-gritty on floggers, suspensions, corsets, and more. They've got introductory materials for beginners too, so no worries if you're just starting out.

And hey, if you've stumbled upon some more hidden gems out there, don't keep them to yourself! Share the love in the comments below. After all, the more, the merrier, right?
Happy exploring!

Plan Ahead for a Safe and Steamy Time in the Bedroom
Alright, let's talk safety – but not the kind of safety that's a buzzkill. We're talking about setting a safe word, so when you want to plead "stop" or "slow down," your partner knows to hit the brakes. If gagging is on the menu, let's figure out another signal, because communication is key, even when you're speechless.
Now, let's make sure our safe sex supplies are stocked, our toys are clean and intact, and we've got backup plans for any wild candle wax mishaps. Oh, and don't forget the safety scissors for those unexpected rope entanglements – and where in the world did we put the keys to those handcuffs?
On to the fun stuff! Let's have a chat about what gets you going. Whether it's being in control, surrendering control, or exploring the world of restraints, let's get clear on what turns you on. And hey, reading some bondage erotica might just spark some hot new ideas.
Lastly, let's be real about our skills. Sure, suspension bondage looks hot in the movies, but let's start with the basics and work our way up. Remember, it's all about having a blast while staying safe and comfortable.
Ready to turn up the heat? Let's plan ahead and make this an unforgettable night of pleasure and play!

Getting Down to Bondage Business: With a Side of Fun and Safety
So, you know how sex can be this wild, carefree adventure where you let your body do all the talking? Well, when it comes to bondage, things get a bit more, um, intricate.
When you're just starting out, trying to figure out the whole spanking thing can make you feel like a total newbie—and that's totally fine! It's okay to feel a little awkward or wonder if you're doing it right. Heck, you might even question whether enjoying it makes you a "bad" person (hint: it doesn't).
Now, diving into the world of bondage can be a bit overwhelming with all the dos and don'ts, but for now, let's keep things light and breezy.

Let's Talk: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
We all know that communication is key in vanilla sex, but when it comes to the more adventurous stuff, it's like, quadruple important. Seriously, get verbal consent from everyone involved and make sure they're totally on board with what's about to go down. Oh, and remember, if at any point things feel off, you have the power to call a timeout. Safety first, always.

Playful Bondage: Exploring Safe Restraint Options
So, you're ready to dip your toes into the world of bondage and restraint, huh? Well, make sure you do it right so that the only thing getting tied up is your partner, not the circulation in their limbs!
1. Gear Up with Proper Restraints
When it comes to restraining your partner, skip the DIY route with scarves and ties. Opt for quality padded restraints, so you can avoid any unexpected circulation cutoffs. Plus, who wants flimsy restraints that can't handle a little playful struggling, right?
2. Rope Play 101
If you're feeling a bit more adventurous, give rope play a go. Just remember these nifty tips: always maintain circulation by slipping two fingers under the ropes, avoid tying around the neck (duh!), and distribute the tension across a larger area. Pro tip: never leave your bound partner alone, and ask about any old injuries before getting all tied up.
3. Safety First, Second, and Third
No matter what method you choose, always keep safety scissors handy—yep, the ones that can easily cut through the rope in case things get a little too intense. And hey, don't forget to check in with your partner often and give them the okay to speak up if something feels off.
Remember, whether you're into restraints or rope play, the key is open communication, a lil' bit of caution, and a whole lot of fun!
Happy bonding!

See also: “Why I love bottoming to rope bondage,” “The ten rules of wrist restraint,” and, honestly, how-to videos, such as this one from Two Knotty Boys, the authors of Showing You the Ropes:

So, you've discovered that bondage might just be your cup of tea? Well, well, well! Whether it's the thrill of control or the exhilarating sensation of being controlled, this kink can definitely add some spice to your bedroom shenanigans.


Now, before you go all out and invest in those leather wrist restraints, hold your horses! You don't have to break the bank for your first foray into tying up your partner. Raid your drawers – scarfs, ties, belts, and hey, even pantyhose can do the trick! Not to mention, they can double up as blindfolds! Resourceful, right?


And let's not forget the everyday items lying around your house. Ice cubes for some thrilling sensation play, lotion that can moonlight as massage oil, and your wardrobe full of fabrics. Soft, smooth, textured – they all have their own tantalizing touch to explore.
Oh, and dear hands! Don't underestimate the pleasure they can bring. They're versatile, fun, and hey, they're what you've got! So, in the world of bondage, creativity knows no bounds – or maybe it does, but that's a story for another day!


Remember, safety and consent always come first. So, buckle up (or tie up?) and get ready to embark on a thrilling, educational, and hopefully hilarious adventure with your partner!

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