A Crash Course in Face-Slapping for the Bold & the Brave!

Are you curious in trying slapping in bed? As an Intimacy, Relationship, and Sex Coach, I often get asked how to explore kinkier sex properly. A slap can be exciting and sexy if done right.

Brace yourselves, slappers and slappees, it's time for a hilarious, cheeky adventure!

When it comes to spanking, slapping, and whipping during sex, it can be uncomfortable. People may worry if slapping is abusive, harmful, or a sign of mental issues. Erotic pain-play can stir up emotions, and that's normal. If both partners are willing, turned on, and adult, it's okay. Any sexual act between consenting adults is fine. It's okay to want to slap or be slapped. Here's what beginners need to know before trying it.

1. The Consent Talk: Before any cheek meets palm, let's have the talk – the consent talk. Surprise slapping? Absolutely not!!!!! Both parties need to be on board, enthusiastically into it, and adulting. Clear communication is the secret sauce for spicy endeavors.

2. Lights, Camera, Action!: Wondering how to bring up the topic? No sweat. Start by checking if your partner is open to exploring this realm. Watching some tasteful adult content together can be a fun, no-pressure way to spark interest. Think TrenchCoatX or Bellesa, where excitement, not fear, takes center stage and more female focused site vs. pornhub.

3. Knowledge is Kink: BDSM or any kink requires some homework. Don't aim to be a slapping master overnight, but knowing the basics is a must. Take a class (yes, they exist), There are plenty of places in major cities that offer free classes such as The Pleasure Chest and Babeland. It can very helpful to see things for yourself. Watch YouTube videos by sexperts like Jess Wilde and Nina Pain, and absorb all the info you can.

Heres an  YouTube video by Nina Pain. It's like a beginner's guide to face slapping. It's important to learn before giving it a try.

4. Spank Before You Slap: Like warming up before a workout, start with spanking. It's the training wheels before the grand face-slapping performance. Get comfortable with the basics before venturing into the more delicate territory. It's okay if you prefer face slapping over butt slapping. You can start with slapping the buttocks because it's less painful and has more meat (vs the softness of the face cheeks), then gradually try it on the face as you get comfortable.

Here is a great video on spanking from sex ed genius Jess Wilde.

5. The Safe Word Magic: Safe words are an essential aspect of maintaining safety and communication during intimate activities, especially in roles where one partner is being submissive. It's crucial to establish a word or phrase that serves as a signal to pause and check in with each other, such as "banana," "red," "teddybear," or "cherry." Unlike commonly used phrases like "no" or "stop," the safe word acts as a safety net, allowing the submissive partner to signal a temporary pause without dissipating the sexual energy. It's important to recognize that even in a submissive role, one still retains autonomy over their body. If something doesn't feel right, it's okay to communicate and take a step back.

6. Gentle Pats First: Rome wasn't slapped in a day. Begin with tender, teasing slaps during passionate moments. Gradually intensify as comfort levels rise. Remember, it's a journey, not a race. To help ease any soreness, gently rub the area where you made contact. You can also pause during oral sex to lightly slap their face before continuing. Gradually increase the intensity of the slaps. Always make sure to communicate and get consent from your partner at each stage.

7. Hand Placement Wisdom: Slapping isn't a free-for-all. Strategically place a hand on the opposite cheek to stabilize and offer a buffer. I highly recommend you keep it in place for a while. It adds a passionate touch and reduces the sting, making it more intimate.

8. Mind the Geography: The face is a sensitive area, so navigate with care. Stay clear of ears and eyes, focusing entirely on the cheeks. Accidental slips happen – stop immediately, check in, and keep the momentum going.

Remember, communication is important in this adventurous journey. Let's explore, have fun, and master the art of slap-happiness.